Sunday, January 15, 2006

Should I wear Spaghetti Top for the Save Indian Family Raod Show

Saturday I wore save Indian Family T-shirts and went around forum , MG road and majestic. Met some ex friends from wipro & infosys and they were very much supportive and have promised to join the Bangalore Roadshow wearing the SIF t-shirts being planned in the month of February.
My save Indian family darlings I am planning to wear white Spaghetty Top & black long slit skirt what do you guys say will it attract more crowd ?

Sunday, January 01, 2006

Key to deal with Re-concialiation chamber of horrors

Per the family court laws any dispute will have reconcilation with a women reconciliator. Many of our SIF members and on the ground members reconciliator felt always side with the wife no matter what.

Profile of the reconcilitors

Many of the reconciliator have experts in womens studies & womens issues example Dr. Vijaya Vasanthi is a phd in women's studies , Lalitha shastri started an NGO for women . Many of them are part of womens achivers network . Ambika is part of the women guild , Ujwala Mandgi is celebrated lawyer who fought Anil kumbles child custody cases which effectively sealed any chances for men and they have been reduced to beggin for few hours in childs life

Most of them have tie up with some womens organisation other which have spawned laws which have lead to innocent mean and elders being jailed without cause.

I havent' seen a single reconciliator support for joint custody or giviing for 2-3 daysevery week witht eh husband .
In my personal discussion I have found that they against husbands having any say to prevent an unborn child from being murdered ( aborted )

To my knowledge not a single of them have spoken about the problems of the husbands and the harassment of the men . Not single on fo them have supported making 498a Bailable whcih was recommended by judiciary
We have to understand that this is the product of several centuries of conditioning that men do not deserve anything as rights and are economic & security slaves for the women we cannot personally blame them

How to handle the reconciliation chambers

Give the wife a chance to speak fully utilise the ladies first
Keep a 90 second speach ready and finish it in 90 seconds.
Treat them with respect but politely decline to explain saying that you have already written your plea in the court cases.
Refuse any settlement attempt saying that though you are ready for out of court settlemetn it has to be really out of court.
In case they mention that it is only you and your wife who are involved .
Mention that per societal norms parents are your responsibility and you cannot bring harm to their mental state and any black spots on the their feeling of moral uprightness
If they want to furthur reconcile that you are ready but that courts times should not be wasted and that you are ready to be reconciled at their NGOs or their office out of court hours and bring an SIF counsellor along with you.
This way any blanket statement made on presumptions of men and women can be tackled by SIF counsellor
any detailed reconciliation has to be done with SIF reconcilition becuase many of the protections to be required are ignored in settlements.